Posts Tagged ‘toddlers’

Age discrimination

I have been scowled at today, so was my friend. Our grandsons, all aged just 2 were tutted about. Our crime was to go into Starbucks for a coffee and a chat after music makers. The local Starbucks is a large and irregularly shaped establishment, unlike the Costa Coffee, and this is why we chose it, we can go right to the back, around a corner and not disturb other patrons. Brilliant, our little area was empty, as was much of the cafe. The boys were also issued with instructions, no running, no throwing, no touching and stay next to the ‘Nannies’. After a while two middle-aged ladies came and sat about 15 feet away from our menagerie. The boys were doing what toddlers do, being quite noisy, nothing unpleasant, mainly giggling alot because they were playing peep-bo around the chairs within the area we had indicated to them. After a short while my friend caught my eye and indicated I should look over at the 2 women. Well, if looks could kill I would not be writing this. My initial reaction was to ask the boys to quieten down, but since my friend I were able to carry on a conversation without raising our voices I kept quiet. The next thing is that these two good ladies had vacated their seats, whilst shaking their heads at us and tutting at the boys, and moved to a different part of the cafe. At first I felt guilty but then the bolshie part came out. Hang on a minute, we were sitting there first, there were plenty of other tables they could have sat at but they chose to sit there. The boys were not being disruptive, they were not anywhere near them all they were doing was laughing and amusing themselves. At no time did they move anywhere near them, in fact they stayed in a corner with the width of the room, and friend and I, between our clan and the sour-faced old biddies (they were in fact younger than friend and I, but they were sour-faced).

It is ages since friend and I have ventured into a coffee shop, we have deliberately waited until we knew the boys could be controlled without tantrums and tear.  Today was a trial run, a hope that we can start doing social activities again. The boys all behaved brilliantly, friend and I couldn’t have hoped for more from them, but those 2 women have ruined the moment of normality for us.

So, the lesson for today is that if you are a grandmother, with toddlers, do not go anywhere, even late morning, where there may be ladies who coffee as coffee houses are obviously their domain.

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Christmas present

Acknowledging the credit crunch, weddings, births and critical illness we decreed that this year we would be having a slightly pared down christmas present frenzy. However, looking at the mountain of parcels under and around the tree on Christmas morning I did wonder if anyone had listened. Hubby and I had agreed no presents to each other in view of our up and coming holiday so…….I gave him an all-weather microfleece for golf and the latest John O’Farrell and he gave me a digital photo frame! (Thank heavens I had ignored our ‘agreement’).

All the family were together and, as the grandchildren are all so young there is a huge amount of equipment required just to enable us all to have lunch together; two dining tables, one booster seat (Izzy), two highchairs (the boys), one electric swing (Evie)* and an assortment of different bibs, plates, bowls and feeding utensils, all Nanny’s resources are called into action. It is also total, absolute mayhem. There’s Jack using the kitchen floor as a race track, whilst you are trying to prepare the meal. The boys are taking advantage of the locks being off cupboard doors so they can distribute the cupboard contents all round the kitchen. Izzy is being potty-trained, so there are a selection of potty’s dotted around and everyone is keeping an eye out for signs that she may need reminding to sit on one. Amy has disappeared behind the sofa with the nibbles and is gorging herself on a selection of tummy fillers and Evie is under constant siege from her cousins, kisses from Jack and Amy, mouth-poking from Iz and thumps from the boys. Ahhh, families.

My greatest joy? Having son there, looking so healthy, enjoying his baby. Poor lad was subjected to frequent hugs from me, we are so lucky that he is celebrating, and enjoying, Christmas. Yesterday I downloaded some photos for my frame, amongst them was a photo of son cuddling Evie minutes after her birth. He had had his op about 2 weeks previously so was starting to look better but he was still painfully thin and had that yellowish pallor which I associate with nasty illness. Hubby said he didn’t think I should have that image in the slideshow, I disagree as it is a reminder to me how close we came to losing son and how well he is now. That, however horrified I was by the care he received in hospital, the end result was positive and, that as we approach the New Year, we not only have a new daughter and grand daughter but also a son who is pain free and able to enjoy life again.

* Electric swing – wonderful piece of equipment for enabling parents to ‘steal’  time when baby is grouchy.

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