Archive for May 20th, 2008

Nuptial News

Ten days to go until my little boy gets married. I’ve ordered the balloons, the ribbons for the wedding car are safely stored with the ‘pull bows’, must try one so I know how to do them, my hair and nail appointments are made. One daughter is making the table centres, Jack has drawn the picture that will be used on the menu and he and Amy are in training for handing out the ‘favours’ ( I am extremely doubtful about Amy being given a large basket of sweeties, son obviously has more faith in her than I do!). I have been depriving myself of carbohydrates and calorie heavy foodstuffs for weeks now hoping that I can shed some flesh and the skirt that I use to gauge if my efforts are successful is suggesting that I have gone down a clothes size. Yeah! Unfortunately I think I need to buy a different pair of shoes. I had bought a pair with open toes, then the other day my toe experienced a close encounter with the stairgate, the nail is now black, no concealing it in those shoes. A cover-up is needed.

Mother has put a spanner in the works, I want to strangle her. When son first announced his wedding plans she said that she didn’t think that she would go as it is a civil ceremony and, being a rabid catholic, she couldn’t condone it. “Up to you Mother”. Then she thought about it and decided that she would condescend to go. A week ago she phoned me to say that she wouldn’t be attending as my step-father would be going on an annual walk that weekend. I would like to say that I was speechless but that would be untrue, I was eloquent in the extreme. “Stop right there Mother. You said ‘annual’, it’s a annual event this walk. Right, that means that it happens every year. Your grandson is getting married for the first, and hopefully, the only time this, or any other, year. Now, let me get this straight, you feel that an annual walk is more important than an invitation to the most important event in your grandson’s life?” Her response was to ask me to tell son that she wouldn’t be going to his wedding. I declined the offer and this is when she started explaining that stepdad doesnt even know about the wedding and she doesn’t want to stop him going on his walk because he is ‘bi-polar’ and it might ‘tip him’. Bi-polar my a**e. If there is anyone with, or causing, a psychiatric disorder it is the mother from hell. My poor sister was immediately alerted to Mum’s calumny, I think I was mostly intelligible whilst relaying the essence of the conversation. I was so angry I was shaking. Last I heard mother has decided that she will come without her husband. Pondering about tipping someone over the edge, by asking them to make a choice, has me questioning about whether not telling him there is a choice could be equally destructive if, or when, he finds out.


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I’m not going to blog about the abortion debate. We all have our own beliefs. Enough said.

What has everyone been up to recently? Redundant question really as all the pregnancy bookings I’m wading through at the moment answer that question for me! There is a positive glut of newly pregnant women, November, December and January are going to be busy, busy at our local maternity units.

Over the weekend I booked a woman who lives in one of our old homes, interesting to see what they have done with it. H is 11 weeks pregnant and was suffering extreme nausea, luckily not accompanied by sickness but still very distressing. We had a chat about traditional remedies, drink and a biscuit before you get out of bed, ginger biscuits are recommended, as is ginger beer or ginger itself at any time; anti-nausea wrist-bands; frequent nibbling of biscuits, sweets and, for many women, carbonated drinks. I asked if there were twins in the family, as a multiple pregnancy will produce more pronounced pregnancy symptoms, H was having her scan this morning so we would know soon enough! I reassured her that morning sickness is actually quite a positive sign of a healthy pregnancy, so whilst it is quite debilitating it is also comforting and, will hopefully not continue for more than another few weeks. We carried on with the paperwork and chat, no obvious problems so I quite happily booked H for midwife-led care, mentioning homebirth as a possibility if all continued well with the pregnancy.

Today I had a student nurse out with me on her maternity placement. She was an enthusiastic companion and very eager to find out everything that community midwives get up to. I didn’t have a clinic today but took her into one of my surgeries to pick up any messages and drop off a Maternity Certificate for one of my women to collect. The phlebotomist (blood taker) was there and I checked with her that she knew what to do with the new Family Origin Questionnaires we are using. As we were chatting she told me that H had been in this morning for her blood tests having just returned from her scan. Apparently H was excited, she is having identical twins. I immediately phoned H to congratulate her and her husband and check that all the foundations for her care had been established at the antenatal clinic. They had, in fact H was impressed by how instant the response was when the two babies were seen. H said that when her husband had come home after her booking appointment she had told him about my ‘twin’ comment. When they were having the scan, and could see one baby he had, jokingly, said ‘Oh. Is that another one?’, and as they laughed about it the sonographer told them that it was, apparently their laughter became somewhat hysterical after that. That’s 5, pregnant with twins, women on my books at the moment, and all naturally conceived. 

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